Saturday, March 19, 2011

butterflies in your stomach?? Oh you have a crush !!

Crushes are sort of easy entry-ways into the world of strong emotions and relationships, without having much of the scary risk involved in really dating someone. People have crushes on their teachers, on actors, on band members, on scout leaders or pastors. Sometimes people have crushes on fellow students, but usually it's on a student that is several grades older.
Sometimes, feelings for a crush can be confusing because they're new to you and you aren't sure how to act. You could have mixed feelings. When you see your crush, a part of you might feel embarrassed and you might want to run away and hide. Another part of you might imagine your crush noticing you and sharing the same feelings. Some of you might just want to be friends with your crush.

  • You love them yet you don't even know them.
  • All you can think about is them and what if...
  • You've planned your whole future.
  • You lose the power of speech and co-ordination in their presence.
  • Butterflies in your stomach.
  • Pounding heart.
  • You stammer/stutter something like "have you got the time?" at them.
  • You imagine hours of conversations with them.

    • Don't talk about your crush around other people besides your best friend(s), one that you know will not tell anybody!   (WISH I READ THIS BEFORE..)
    • Never mess up on purpose; he will just start to think that you are really stupid!
    • RELAX. If you trip or do something else embarrassing, just laugh it off. He won't care too badly, and if he laughs AT you instead of WITH you, don't like him.
  • HOW NOT TO ACT STUPID ?? ( you will always tend to act so..)
  • Don't panic if you make a mistake or do something a little weird; just be yourself, and if he likes you for yourself than that's better than you having to turn into something you're not!
    NEVER, under ANY circumstances, think that you are stupid or that you are an idiot or anything like that!
    Make fun of whatever you did before somebody else does. Then the person can't make fun of you! However, don't overuse, as you might come off as self-conscious and unsure about yourself.
    Step back. Instead of word-vomiting, try to calm down and start asking Him questions. Then the risk of embarrassing yourself decreases.
It's hard to find out that the person you like doesn't feel the same way about you. You might feel sad, disappointed, and rejected. That sad feeling is called heartbreak, even though your heart isn't really breaking into pieces. If you feel 
heartbreak, those feelings can last for a while, but they will fade.
Another word about heartbreak: Try to be kind if you're on the other end of a crush — when someone likes you. It's a compliment when someone thinks you're special. If you don't feel the same way, try to and do tell him or her in a nice way.

  • Try not to tie yourself up in knots about this - you've set yourself up with a fantasy relationship, but that is all. The emotions feeding this fantasy can seem very real, but the advantage is you don't have to deal with the actual person. 
  • On the practical side, try to fill the time you would otherwise spend thinking about your crush. Plan your day. Promise yourself some crush-free time, and set up a reward afterwards. Once you've defined the boundaries, a crush like this can be a positive experience. One that can set you up to deal with the emotional side of future, more realistic relationships.
If you're involved in a crush - enjoy it! We have ALL had crushes over the years and they're something you look back on with great fondness. Look at what makes your crush special. Those qualities that you admire in your crush are qualities that are very special to you, and it's very important to learn what those are. It helps you when you look for a real boyfriend or girlfriend to date, to know what you are drawn to

Maybe the thing to avoid isn’t the crush itself, it’s letting the crush control you.  If you find yourself becoming too infatuated with someone, take a step back, take a deep breath, and see if you really can list the reasons why you like someone.  If your answers don’t go beyond “he/she’s just so attractive,” then you might want to come to your senses.

Crushes are new and exciting, so enjoy them while they last. Someday, you'll be telling your own kids about your first crush!

p.s : for me it never goes beyond it.
p.s : source: all possible related sites.
p.s : this shows i can research on just 'nething.'
p.s : i prefer having unobtainable crushes, dating neone is so scary :P
p.s : in the memory of my latest crush, who now has a i-think-so girlfriend :).


  1. he he....thanx 4 enlightening us madam....
    n abt dat "u think so" gal frn....i dont blieve dat...n hope dat memory fades real fast :P:P
    p.s: u didnt mention wat to do if ur crush doesnt know dat u exist....jus tellin, nothin personal :P

  2. nice..:)
    n 4 me she has a I-think-so boyfriend

  3. Great one!! Don't let your Crush, crush you.

  4. @ sasu : "u dont think so", wont make a diffrnce newys.. :P:P
    and abu your 'what to do if your crush doesnt know that you exist' .. will certainly post someday on that..till then you can get personal lessons from me :P
    @ arnab ... awww :( .. seems you are still in phase .. where am out of it :P

  5. being frnds with your crush is a bad idea coz once u get struck in d quicksand of frndshp derez no escape....

  6. @ sylvester : ya i agree, but thats not the case with everybody. sometyms its like u have a crush, and you just want to be frns, and latr the crush thing disappears and you end up being good frnds.
    crushes are quite a few, but all are not meant to end in relationships.. rite??

  7. being frnds wid ur crush is like a sword hanging on ur neck... i say either have a crush or be frnds.. stepping on two boats at a time leads nowhere.

  8. The blog should be included in the 'Girl's Handbook'. :D

    Quite a fun post, though it got matured at places. Makes me conclude that you've had some very interesting experiences with your crushes in the past. :P

  9. @sylvester:agree wid u man..
    @monika:yes..u can research on just abt anythin..put this in ur a nice read..covered all d points of view..